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I’ve been doubly blessed in my life to have two dads.
I think of my first dad as Daddy Dale. He was killed in a car accident when I was only two. Although I was very young at the time, I have snip-its of memories of him. Those precious memories are of moments we spent together – sitting together in a chair, being in the car together (in our little beige ‘bug’), walking alongside him while I carried my doll, and one memory of him scolding me. I loved the feeling of being with him.
My second father is the dad who raised me. Our relationship is especially meaningful because he was my dad by choice, not just by chance. In fact, he chose me twice – once when I was a little girl and he began dating my mother. The second time when I was 23 after he and my mother divorced. Dad had no legal obligations to me, but he chose to continue being a loving and supportive father to me, and has since been a loving grandfather to our sons.
My dad provided a nice living for us, but when I look back, it’s not the things he provided that mean the most, but the time we spent together and the memories we share – like road trips from Indiana to California, Florida, West Virginia, and lots of states and landmarks in between. Time spent visiting him at work and going places with him, even if it was just to run an errand. On Sundays he’d stop to buy the newspaper on the way home from church, and would also buy me a pixie stick that I’d enjoy all the way home. Dad did lots of home improvement projects and let me spend time watching him work. He set up sprinklers on summer days for my friend and I to run through, and would make me feel like the queen of the world when he’d put me on top of the refrigerator – only to walk away and leave me stranded and screaming! We spent time on his motorcycles. I vivdly remember one hot, humid summer night when he took me on a ride through town to cool off, enjoying the sweet fragrances of flowers along the way. As I got older he spent time helping me – fixing things that were broken, moving me in and out of apartments, and helping me with my car. He also spent time through the years acting in my best interest – providing good experiences and preventing bad ones, teaching me, and advising me. In recent years, Dad has taken the time to travel from his home in Indiana to visit us here in Charlotte. He was just here with his wife Carolyn last week – and again, it was spending time with him that I cherished the most.
Yes, of all the things my dad provided through the years, the best gift was of his time. Not only did he choose to become my Dad, he took the time to be a Dad, too.
Thanks, Dad! Happy Father’s Day!
As Father’s Day approaches, I want to say to all the dads, “Dads, you do make a difference!”
I give thanks often that my husband is such a great father to our sons.
- He’s devoted to their well-being
- works hard to provide for them
- has fun with them
- takes time each day to be with them
- does his best to attend their games and other important events
- encourages them
- teaches them
- corrects them
- makes sure they know he loves them
Most importantly, my husband is a man of faith who does his best to set a good and godly example for our sons.
In Tony Dungee’s book, “The Mentor Leader”, he states that most men in prison grew up without a father. It makes me wonder how the prisoners’ lives might have been different if they’d had a father. Would they have made better choices in life? Lived better lives?
This also makes me think about my own sons. We’re blessed to have their father. He’s not just a dad in title only. He is a strong presence in their lives and mine.
Men, if you’re a dad, know that dads do make a difference! Be present in your children’s lives. Set a good example for them. Don’t just love your children, love their mother, too. Most of all, love God. Put Him first in your life, then your wife/marriage, and then your children. Work, money, hobbies/interests, other relationships all come after God, wife, children, family.
Wives, love your husbands and show them respect. This teaches your children to do the same. Know that dads do things differently and it’s ok! Kids need the aspects of relationships with fathers just as much as they need their relationships with you!
No matter your age or the age of your children, if you’re a dad, your children need you. Dads, you do make a difference! May God bless you and be with you in your relationships with your children.
And may the Lord make you increase and abound in love to one another and to all… ~ 1 Thessalonians 3:12
Today my husband and I are celebrating our 20th wedding annversary. Wow! It’s hard to believe we’ve been married that long!
I’m so thankful for my husband, and also thankful that we stayed married all these years. At times we’ve had our problems, but we always worked through them. I continue to love my husband more and more, and look forward to the years to come. It amazes me that after all these years, our love continues to grow!
How did we make it this far? It’s only been by the grace of God…literally. Looking back to when we started dating, I believe it was God who brought us together. Later when we experienced struggles, it was God who drew us first to Him, then back to each other. Since then, we’ve each grown in faith, striving to keep God at the center of our hearts and home. As we’ve grown deeper in faith, God has grown us deeper in love. Praise be to God!
Father God, I’m so thankful for my husband and our marriage. Thank You for growing Your love in our hearts and for blessing our marriage in so many wonderful ways. Please continue to be with us, to grow us and guide us. Help us to live in marriage in ways that are pleasing to You. Please help me be the wife my husband deserves. Help me keep my vows to love, honor, and cherish him, in sickness and in health, whether richer or poorer, for all the days of our lives. In so doing, may our love and marriage bring glory and honor to You. To You my Heavenly Father I pray, with Jesus as my Lord and Savior, and in the love of the Holy Spirit. Amen.