The following was shared with me via email from my friend, Charissa.  It’s a wonderful lesson about love that touched her heart.   With her permission, I’m sharing it with you, too.   Charissa writes:

While browsing through the Christian books in the church library, I ran across a book called “Learning to Live with People You Love”.  I thought this would be a good one for Dave and I.  I was shocked when I started reading the misconceptions of love that most of us have.  D. James Kennedy. Ph.D. writes that “This feeling that people call love is not what the bible means by love at all.  According to Scripture, love is not a feeling; love is a way of acting.  True love, God’s Word tells us, is a way of treating other people.  Notice in the following Scripture passage that there is not one tingle of emotion-not even a palpitation!

             Love is patient. love is kind.  It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.  Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.  It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres

1 Corinthians 13:4-7, NIV 

   Love, according to the Bible’s definition. involves two aspects: doing and enduring.  We can understand this better by looking at Jesus Christ.  The life of Christ is divided by theologians into two parts: His active obedience and His passive obedience.

  The active obedience of Jesus was everything He did: Jesus went about doing good.  He healed the sick; He fed the hungry; He forgave the sinner; He comforted the mourner.  Christ’s passive obedience (from which we get the word passion) involves the things He endured: mockery, insults, betrayal, injustice, emotional turmoil, sorrow, physical pain, separation from His heavenly Father.  Jesus Christ was the perfect embodiment of love as it is defined in 1 Corinthians thirteen.  Doing good and enduring evil-that is what love is all about.

I hope this was as eye opening for you as it was for me.