Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will direct your paths.     ~ Proverbs 3:5-6


It begins as soon as parents know they’re expecting a child and probably continues forever after… having to make choices on behalf of your child and helping with decisions that will significantly impact your child.  We know.  We’ve been parents for 13 years.  Last week was one of those times when we had to step up as parents and make important choices and decisions. 

At age 13, our older son is facing choices, decisions, and options that will have a lasting impact on his future.  Of course, as parents, we think we know what’s best!  However, that’s not true.  Father knows best.  ‘Father’ as in our Heavenly Father.  God.  Our Creator.  Our sons’ Creator!

By recognizing that truth and using that truth as the basis for our efforts and actions, we are able to do what truly seems best.  Here is our thinking:

As parents our jobs are to help our children reach their full potential.  What is their full potential?  Only God truly knows.  The Bible tells us we are fearfully and wonderfully made; that God knits us together in the womb (Psalm 139); and God made plans for my child before actually making the child himself.  The Bible also tells us in Jeremiah that God’s plans are to give us hope and a future, to prosper us and not to harm us. 

 “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”     ~ Jeremiah 29:11

Aren’t those promised things the very things we want for our children?

It makes sense to my husband and I that if we want to help our children along as well as possible, we have to turn to God to see how to do that! It’s not about a map we lay out for our child’s future, but about helping our children along the paths God has set before them. 

How do we do that?  How do we know what those paths are?  We pray. 

We take situations, choices and decisions to the Lord and ask Him how we should go.  We ask Him to show us what is best for our child, acknowledging in prayer that only God truly knows what is best.  Only God knows who He created our sons to be!

In a recent situation we prayerfully asked God to show us what to do, to make it clear.  My husband and I prayed separately and God answered  us separately – leading each of us in the same direction! This served as a wonderful affirmation.  Surely we were looking down the right path!  Then each step along the way I’d pray again and say, “God, you know what we’re thinkging/doing.  If it’s not right, You have to show us!  Please close doors if we’re doing the wrong things.”  We also sought God’s will asking that these things would be to His honor and glory, dedicating our efforts to Him. 

“Then you will call upon me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you.  You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.”    ~ Jeremiah 29:12-13

When we pray and try to follow God’s will, we can tell our children we prayed and give them the assurance that we’re not just doing what we want to do. We’re trying to do what GOD wants us to do. 

Are we experts with all the parenting answers?  HA!  Hardly!  But we have learned how to find answers that are beyond our human ability to know when the future is not ours to see.  We go straight to the One who knows all, sees all, and loves each of us more than we love each other. We look to the God who wants what’s best for us because we do believe that Father knows best.